Let me precede this by saying my response to these things being said to me will entirely depend on my then-present mood.
Do NOT talk about the news to me.
Do NOT bring up rumors about him coming home early, or the "9 month deployments". They don't apply to him, and he will be here when he gets here.
Unless your HUSBAND (not your dad, your brother, or your sister's neighbor's friend) is deployed or has been deployed, and you are not trying to hold yourself above me, DO NOT say you know how I feel.
Do not say, even when I hear from him, "well at least he's safe." Until he is back here, in the States and I can hold him, he is not safe.
Do not tell me about how you miss your loved one when they are gone unless you're talking about a deployment of your husband. There is nothing like it.
Do not tell me to keep busy, or exercise, or volunteer, or work a lot. I will do what I need to do to manage this my own way and get through it in a way that works for me.
Be careful when and how you say "thank you." I am not doing this for you, nor is my husband.
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